gregariouslydee

nudiemuse:

yepdeesaidit:

buttahlove:

yepdeesaidit:

buttahlove:

afrotitty:

buttahlove:

ohlookitstonia:

buttahlove:

rawhoneyy:

THESE are the times that I’m ashamed to be a fat black girl.

I say “GET IT GWARL!!”
Besides, it’s typically dark in the club. So who’s instigatin’ azz blew her cover!?!? Let her make love up in the club, dayum!! Just mind ya biznesss!!! /Will Smiff

This is not a good look for anyone, sorry. Did she not feel the breeze?

FUCK BREEZES!!!! LOL!

Nah, she was too busy getting her groove on and fucking in the corner (you jealous?) to self-consciously tug on her skirt every 5 seconds. Get over it. 

^RIGHT!
Cuz Lawdt knows I dance like a proud whore at the [big girl] clubs! You can’t tell me NUFFIN!!! *sings* Precious memories, oh how they linger!!!!!

*blinks blankly* this…is really being justified right now. oh. ok.

Yup Dee, I said it.

*rubs temples* okay Keena Beena.

HOWEVER. This is indefensible at ANY size. SOMEONE had to say it. Perhaps it’s an unflattering photo. But there’s some assumptions being taken with the commentary of this photo:

“She’s getting her love on in the club. You mad?”: What in his body language (in this snapshot) is indicative that he is responding to her with mutual attraction in an affectionate manner?

“She was too busy to be self-consciously tugging on her skirt.”: then she probably shouldn’t have worn it. Again this is not size specific. I would (and do) say the same thing to any size of any gender.

I mean honestly though, I’m not going to down her because that would be oppressive. Is it my cup of tea? No. But where is the line between personal responsibility in self-representation and individual freedom of expression drawn? I’m all for size acceptance and loving yourself blase, blase. But more importantly, I’m all about wearing what flatters you and your body and always being cognizant that not every clothing choice available will do that.

Commence to calling me a hater.

Dee you’re my girl but no one no one ever has any responsibility to make you comfortable with how they present themselves.

No one anywhere has a responsibility to anyone to wear “flattering” clothes.

No one.

No one has a responsibility to behave in a way that anyone but they themselves feel good about.

In asking for positive representation you are in effect asking to make a monolith of women or Black women or fat women which is not awesome and never going to happen.

Part of not only bodily autonomy is personal autonomy to do as we please when we please.

Maybe -you- shouldn’t wear that outfit because it would make you uncomfortable.

Clearly this person is doing just fine. Aside from some jackass taking their picture without (most likely) permission which is a bullshit move.

And this is where I part ways with the “Acceptance” communities. Condoning nonsense in the name of individual freedom of expression. I’ll maintain my lane of fighting injustice in race in gender because this right here? Nah. Not bout that life.